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The thing was, she was young. Very young. Certainly legal, but still, I really should have been ashamed of myself. I was a thirty-two year old man! It started out so simply though. She sent me a picture because I wrote something silly like, if a picture is worth a thousand words than a thousand words must be worth a picture.
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KinkForAll is an ad-hoc educational unconference about the convergence of sexuality with the rest of life for anyone and everyone. It is 100% free and open to the public. Anyone with the desire to learn or with something to contribute is welcome and invited to participate.

Vitals
What: A free and highly social day of sexuality education and discussion.
Why: To inspire a creative, interactive and open environment where everyone feels comfortable talking and learning about all things that sexuality relates to in their lives.
When: February 6th, 2010 at 10:00 AM
Where: Brown University, Wilson Hall, Main Green in Providence, Rhode Island
Who: Everyone
How much: FREE (as in beer as well as freedom)

Details
KinkForAll is an ad-hoc gathering born from the desire for people of all persuasions to share and learn in an open environment. It is a fast-paced event with discussions, presentations, and interaction from all participants. (It is inspired by the BarCamp community.)

ANYONE WITH SOMETHING TO CONTRIBUTE OR WITH THE DESIRE TO LEARN IS WELCOME AND INVITED TO JOIN. When you attend, be prepared to share with others. When you leave, be prepared to share it with the world.

A KinkForAll is a special kind of gathering because there are no spectators, only participants. Attendees must give a talk or a presentation, help with one, or otherwise contribute in some way to support the event. This is called sharing and we like it. All presentations are scheduled the day they happen—there are no pre-scheduled presentations or keynote addresses. The people present at the event will select the presentations they want to see.

Anyone can lead a session, on any topic related to sexuality. You do not necessarily have to teach a new skill or idea. You might share an experience, facilitate a discussion, or read a poem. The goal is to start a conversation, make connections (and maybe even friends), and exchange knowledge. Presentations promoting specific commercial products or companies are discouraged.

Learn more about what to expect at
wiki.kinkforall.org/WhatToExpect

Learn more about the event guidelines at
wiki.kinkforall.org/TheRulesOfKinkForAll

This activity is not sponsored by, associated with, or endorsed by Montgomery County Public Schools or Montgomery County Government.

Get Involved
We need your help in spreading the word. Please help by participating.

Here’s how:
1. Get excited by reading fellow participants’ topic ideas on
wiki.kinkforall.org/KinkForAllProvidence
2. Add your name or handle to the list of participants
3. Join the mailing list and introduce yourself by emailing
kinkforall@googlegroups.com
4. Show up!

Still have questions? Read the Frequently Asked Questions at
wiki.kinkforall.org/FrequentlyAskedQuestions

or email kinkforall@googlegroups.com for more details.

KinkForAll Online
Participate online before the event at your favorite social networking web site:

Homepage: wiki.KinkForAll.org
Google: groups.google.com/group/kinkforall
Twitter: twitter.com/KinkForAll
Identica: identi.ca/kinkforall
Facebook: www.facebook.com/pages/KinkForAll
Fetlife: fetlife.com/groups/2962

All organizational efforts are coordinated in public via the mailing list. Join for free and help turn ideas into realities!

groups.google.com/group/kinkforall

Want to help me with my talk at Conversio Virium tonight (2/1/10) and KinkForAll Providence this Saturday (2/6/10)?

Do one of these exercises as a comment or email to me at mrjackstratton@gmail.com

They don’t have to be long, just enough to get the point across. I will credit you or not mention you, which ever you like. If you would like to be credited, include you name and that you’d like to be credited. I will assume anyone who doesn’t include that doesn’t want to be credited.

Thanks!

1. Articulation
Write a short essay or story to articulate a specific fantasy. Pick one thing you desire, an activity, a scene or scenario and explore where you would like to go with it in a detailed and explicit way. Picture the scene and imagine in what interesting ways it might grow. Take ideas to the next level and examine the roots of your desires and how they can more thoroughly be explored.

2. Seduction
Write a short essay or story to entice someone to do something you find arousing. Put your desired activity in the most appealing light to your reader. Think about what your reader(s) want and write about how your desires fit into their needs. Describe feelings and sensation while steering clear of specifics that your reader may be biased against or have preconceived notions about. Create intrigue and woo the reader by suggesting what you could do to make the activity even more pleasurable for them.

3. Negotiation
Write a short essay or story to arrange a scene that will satisfy all parties involved. Talk in depth about things you want to do while talking briefly but succinctly about what you don’t want to do. Elaborate on your desires and be forthcoming with things that you would be willing to compromise on as well as do in return. Ask questions that have more than yes or no answers. Asking if someone will do something will only get you a yes or no, asking under what circumstances someone might do something leaves the idea open for further negotiation.

4. Processing
Write a short essay or story to examine an activity, scene or scenario that you felt went either very well or very poorly. Write about what you liked about the scene in specific terms, as well as what you didn’t like. Explore why you felt it was success or unsuccessful and write about why you feel that way. Did something unexpected happen? What would you have changed? What would you like to explore further? How did it affect you?

Just a few reminders of a couple of things I’ve done lately that you can see/hear/read/download:

I was on Kink on Tap this Sunday, along with MayMay, Helio Girl and Molly Ren. It’s available in podcast form for you enjoyment.

A couple of months ago I gave a presentation, that turned into two presentations, at KinkForAll DC. My first presentation was on Why Writing about Sex is Important and the other was entitles Slash: SUBTEXT = BUTT SEX.

I was Fleshbotted for the sixth time!

I was listed on the Manhattan Times Neighborhood Blogwatch! It’s kind of awesome that my vanilla neighborhood newspaper spotlighted kinky old me.

And stories are almost done! Actual real stories, just like the ones I used to post. Amazing.

HNT Courtesy of Molls (via Eat The Cake NYC)

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or Jack and Wendy Will Beat Your Ass You Until You Come

Trilby is a hypno-fetishist. Hypnosis has always been something I have been both interested in and conflicted about. I’m a skeptic. This isn’t just a statement about my not taking capital “T” Truths at face value, it is actually a philosophical and a political stance that greatly effects how I look at the world.

The things I’ve read about hypnosis were often inconclusive, ambivalent or simply too vague to verify.

I met Trilby a while ago and I was fascinated from our first conversation about hypnosis and specifically erotic hypnosis. The idea of controlling someone, specifically their sexual reactions, has always been one of my biggest kinks. Not to mention the fact that Trilby was bright, cute and hysterically funny.

Trilby is also one of the only people I’ve ever met in person who frequented MCStories.com, a pretty old school repository of hypnosis and other mind control themed erotica.

I had mentioned a few times to Trilby that I wanted to learn more about hypnosis and at one point she mentioned that she might like to get caned.

This is one of the things about my new and growing circle of friends that I love. The friendly, fun, non-drama negotiation of play. Not dating, not friends with kinky benefit, just friends who play. Play, not as a separate activity than friendship, but as an extension of it.

But I am over-explaining this, let’s get the to the wet panties and funny noises part.

Now, this story of hypnosis and kink could be intense and serious or light hearted and playful, but one thing was added to the equation that made it ridiculous (in a good way) and epic.

That one thing was Wendy Blackheart.

Wendy was one of the first sex bloggers I ever met in person, during that year and a half or so since I started all this craziness.

Funny story, Wendy and I found each other on OKCupid and then found each other’s blogs. Neither of us really read each other’s blogs, because we are both a little self absorbed.

We met for drinks, both thinking we would top the other one and maybe fuck. When we met we both realized neither of these things would ever happen.

We then proceeded to freak out the patrons of Hop Devil by loudly discussing fisting techniques.

Since then Wendy and I have become good friends. We are pleather siblings and we still constantly try and top each other. She also tends to try and undress my girlfriend whenever they are in the same room, which has caused me to occasionally squirt her with a water bottle, as one would reprimand a naughty cat.

But I digress.

Trilby, Wendy and I all found ourselves at the same party. We started talking and before we knew it we were in a private room and Trilby was being put under.

The problem was, although Wendy was able to put Trilby under, she had no idea what to do with her once she was laying there, open to suggestion.

“Tell her she is very aroused!” I whispered.

Wendy told her and then gave her a trigger word so that she could put her into a trance anytime that night.

Trilby awoke, a little giddy, a little touchy feely. I was still skeptical, but no matter the actual mechanism, Trilby was aroused and Wendy and I did that.

Thus I smiled and reveled in a new power.

Wendy, for all of her awesomeness, was at a disadvantage, because she was both not particularly into girls and unable to perform her most enjoyed activities due to the rules of the party (i.e. no penetration). I, once again, stepped up with some ideas.

“Tell her that every time someone touches her ass she will get more and more aroused and every time someone hits her ass it is like her clitoris is being stimulated.”

Wendy’s eyes lit up. The commands were entered into poor Trilby’s brain. We then led her out into the main room of the party, accidentally brushing her ass the whole way.

She was deliciously dizzy in the crowded room. I looked around and saw a couple kissing in the corner as naked breasts rubbed together. A young man flicked his partner’s nipples with a wooden skewer. A woman assessed a collared boy kneeling before her.

Eventually, after mingling a bit, Wendy, Trilby and I ended up on the couch. Wendy put Trilby over her lap and both of us gave Trilby some light little swats on her ass. Trilby writhed in pleasure and then let out a yep of shock.

“Whoa! What the heck?”

Wendy and I laughed and then Wendy put her out again.

I stared down at Trilby’s prone form. She was only wearing a pair of lacy boycut panties and knee high socks. She was breathing heavy and waiting for commands.

“Tell her that if she is hit on her ass with any implement it would feel like she was being penetrated by a penis. Also if she is spanked long enough the arousal would build and build and she will have a powerful orgasm.”

Who knew if it would work? Still Wendy and I patted and smoothed Trilby’s bottom as she purred under our hands. Wendy started spanking her randomly as I started to spank her with hard, well placed strikes.

Trilby moaned and writhed, as I reached over and got the wooden brush I brought. A few smacks with that had her moaning loudly. I switched to the crop and carefully aimed blows at one cheek, while Wendy spanked the other.

Trilby’s body was tightening now. She had one of those body types where her waist and chest were somewhat small, but her hips and ass flared out. This made for a lovely place to spank.

As Wendy went a little crazy with the spanking I got the cane. I knew she didn’t have that high of a pain tolerance and already I had found myself pulling back as her face went from ecstasy to wincing hurt.

A little bouncing of the cane on her bottom, followed by a few good hits when she was ready. I got enough to give me that lovely little feeling I get in my chest when I see those red and white lines the cane leaves.

Then the spanking started in earnest. I tried to focus on the center of her butt, almost low enough to be spanking her sex. I knew the vibrations would reverberate down.

Trilby, consciously or subconsciously, realized this new barrage was building to a climax, thus her body started building to one as well.

She squirmed and moaned and as we spanked her in quick rhythmic succession she tensed and buried her face in the pillows of the couch.

Of course that wasn’t good enough for Wendy and I.

We let Trilby calm, but continued with our little pats and rubbing. Soon the rhythm was back and Trilby was coming again.

I think we took her up and down again before finally cuddling with her and soothing her.

Wendy put her back down and removed the trigger and the suggestions.

We all giggled and glowed at the fun.

I went back to play with others, but the scene stayed in my head. That control, over someone’s arousal, over someone’s reactions and even their senses. It clicked.

Thus a new interest was added to my list of obsessions.

Boy: Skinny tie, expensive jeans, good hair. Snide confidence all over his boyishly good looking face. Gray hound’s tooth overcoat, which is quite fetching. Metro, but obviously not a native. Standing against the door ogling a girl.

Girl: Hot and bookish. Librarian chic glasses, pencil skirt, black kitten heals. Chocolate brown hair in a neat bob. NYC government issued red pea coat open just enough to show a low cut v-neck sweater and a hint of marvelous cleavage. She is sitting down, deep into a trade paperback.

He is formulating a plan in his head. You can see him working it out and in his mind it is flawless. He makes his way over to her, bumping into a few people as the train starts and stops. He hovers over her, expecting her to look up, but she doesn’t.

He bends down, so this his head is at her head level. She doesn’t notice. He then looked down and tries to see what book she is reading. He can’t see it from his angle so (and kids, this is where the big mistake was made) he pushes the book up a little with his finger.

The girl is started by the popping of her personal space bubble and yells “What the fuck!”

The person next to her is also frightened and spills her coffee the guy next to her, who jumps up and yells “Oh, fucking come on!”

The delicate ecosystem of the subway car is thrown into chaos.

Everyone looks at the guy who caused all the the problem and he stutters “I-um-uh just wanted to-um see what book she was reading. Sorry.”

Just as she is going to reply the train stopped at 42nd and everyone got off, leaving the guy standing confused as new people entered the train and pushed him around.

The book was The Red Tent.

I was listening to the Masocast (which I recommend highly), and Axe was interviewing Troy Orleans. I met Troy once and she beat me viciously in the most painful way possible–at Scrabble.

Troy mentioned something on the podcast called a tag party and it got me thinking. I looked for more information on them online and didn’t find anything. (If anyone knows of resources or writeups about tag parties please comment or email)

The idea of a tag party, as I understand it from Troy Orleans’s description, is a party in which everyone who attends is willing to play. Each partygoer wears a tag in which they write three acts that they are willing to participate in and the role they wish to play in said act. i.e. Spanking/Top, Rope Bondage/Top, Flogging/Bottom.

Anyone at the party can come up to anyone else and ask to participate in one of their tagged activities. Partygoers are expected to play with anyone who requests one of their tagged activities for a minimum of five minutes. After that either person can end play or they can negotiate more time and other activities if they both participants are agreeable.

The minute I heard this description a light went off in my head. Yes, this sounds like exactly the kind of party I want to go to! The basics are all laid out and you can get a little sample size scene with anyone.

Really, this isn’t to say that all guesswork and mystery is taken out of interactions, it’s just that a lot of the initial rundown of the basics are handled by a neat list. Also describing acts you want to participate in as opposed to definitive life roles seems like such a great way to get to know someone. I will tell you what I like to do, not who I am. You have to figure out who I am on your own.

So what’s on your tag?

I sat down on the train this morning and tried to work out my default desires. I have lots of things that depend on specific people/places/emotional states, but these are things I am pretty much always up for.

I did consider, though, that some of these are gender specific for me. I have noted those, though a lot of the reasons why are biological or just because I don’t know how to work boy equipment as well as I know how to work girl equipment.

Spanking/Top

Probably my number one kink. Over the knee. Paddle, belt or wooden brush, but come on, the bare hand is always the best. Squirming is encouraged, but comes with a price.

Caning/Top

The mere sound of the whish through the air gets me hard. The bruises days later make my face hot. The whole thing, from testing taps to aftercare is amazing to me. From intense session with real masochists to showing a beginner the ropes.

Flogging, Impact & Sensation Play/Top or Bottom

Good solid fun! I like working it out with someone. Finding out what they can take and where they take it best. Punching, slapping, hitting with things. Always a fun time.

Rope Bondage/Top or Bottom

I’m still learning, but I have a good grasp on the basics! I nice chest harness, a hog tie, all sorts of interesting predicaments.

Forced Orgasm/Top to Female Bottoms

Tied down or held down. High powered vibrators, aggressive g-spot stimulating toys, anything it takes. Figuring out how to make someone come and then making them do it over and over again until I’m satisfied.

Forced Squirting/Top to Female Bottoms

I enjoy making girls squirt. In fact I would say it is very high on my list of wants, but honestly (and it took me a while to figure this out) I enjoy it even more when the bottom tries not to squirt and is embarrassed about squirting. That part isn’t essential at all, but the humiliation and squirming is a lovely frosting on an already wonderful cake.

Humiliation/Top

This takes a little more trust and a little more getting to know you, but hey, you can scratch the surface just about anytime. If someone lets me I can fuck them up pretty well.

Oh and just to destroy all respect anyone had for me, I give you… Harry Potter porn. Keep reading and you will see the slash.

Title: Bad Timing
Summary: Draco finds a diversion during summer vacation, but he is caught in a rather compromising position.
Pairings: Draco/Ginny, Draco/Ginny/Pansy, and Draco/Crabbe/Goyle
Rating: NC17 (Very graphic bits of sex)
Warning: Sex between 5th and 6th years! A not very hard to figure out twist ending!
Words: 1540

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