Assuming your name is Jack.

You and I started blogs about sex within days of each other and you’re at least momentarily braver than I am.

I had two online romances, one very brief and pretty hilarious, and the other a bit more serious and the hugest of mindfucks, by far.

I find it easy to retreat to the internet instead of putting the work into meeting new people face to face. I have more control here, and it makes it hard to want to go back to the old way. I need time-delay and a backspace key to feel comfortable now, haha.

Only a handful of people know the whole truth of the situation AND have read about it on my blog. It’s only the people I can trust to understand that the things they read there aren’t the work of someone who’s a stranger, who’s replaced their shy, sweet friend, but just another side of me that’s always been there, that I’m finally letting them see. Some have reacted better than others, and those bonds are the ones I see strengthening while others flounder a bit.

I can’t help feeling like the net has ruined all of us a little bit, but I don’t exactly miss life before it either.

That said, there are practical considerations. Something like accessing my “other” identity from an office computer would be stupid (well it is okay at *my* office in the confines of the ivory tower, but not so much if I was in a cubicle farm.)

I think you have to make your own path, if you enjoy the bifurcated identity, go with it. When it starts to feel like a burden, consider shrugging it off. But try to think through the worst case scenarios. I know what mine are if I am “outed” in some dramatic way. They don’t actually scare me that much – they just might make some current plans a bit different. If you know what the scenario is, you can prepare for it. But, like I said, I plan to out myself before anyone else can get to me, if it comes to that

I have different online identities as well. The person I am online is NOT the person my family sees, nor most of my real-life friends. They’re just not that sexually open.

Very recently I was…”found”. I can’t go into in detail (at least on here, ask me and I’ll tell you about it) but it involves my job. I had to sanitize my blog a little with regards to that. I might be overreacting, but I can’t take the chance.