I think it is really more about me identifying a lot with the queer movement and not being queer myself. If that makes sense. Now that I think about it I think the unconference was very mixed in age, gender and preference. I was also thinking it was even more ethnically mixed than a lot of kink related things that I’ve been to. These are all very good things in my opinion. A mix of people, united by kink. It was a very positive experience.

Sorry I didn’t get to meet you, but I was only there for a few hours. Next time! And there certainly will be a next time. I might even take a ride over to Philly or DC if they have KinkforAlls.

There is a lot to be said for the value in homogenous experiences but at the same time it’s far too unlikely that we’ll be able to create spaces where people are able to feel comfortable while being in a space that isn’t entirely like them. That was my goal, and I hope that even if you didn’t feel that KinkForAll New York City was very straight, that you still got a lot out of it.

Thanks for coming, and I’m really sorry I didn’t get a chance to meet you personally.

I do think you examine your masculinity in butch ways – we’ve talked about that before a bit and I think it’s really interesting, and important. so it totally makes sense to extend that to heterosexuality and your sexual orientation, and to even fetishize that a bit – that takes something normative and turns it into something examined and intentional, which is missing, I think, from entirely too many folks’ sex lives.

not the folks at kinkforall, probably, though

we really gotta get that beer sometime! if you’ve ever got a day when you’re leaving work around 5ish, let’s meet up for a quick one & talk butch and fetish and erotica writing and all sortsa stuff.