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The thing was, she was young. Very young. Certainly legal, but still, I really should have been ashamed of myself. I was a thirty-two year old man! It started out so simply though. She sent me a picture because I wrote something silly like, if a picture is worth a thousand words than a thousand words must be worth a picture.
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KinkForAll is an ad-hoc educational unconference about the convergence of sexuality with the rest of life for anyone and everyone. It is 100% free and open to the public. Anyone with the desire to learn or with something to contribute is welcome and invited to participate.

Vitals
What: A free and highly social day of sexuality education and discussion.
Why: To inspire a creative, interactive and open environment where everyone feels comfortable talking and learning about all things that sexuality relates to in their lives.
When: February 6th, 2010 at 10:00 AM
Where: Brown University, Wilson Hall, Main Green in Providence, Rhode Island
Who: Everyone
How much: FREE (as in beer as well as freedom)

Details
KinkForAll is an ad-hoc gathering born from the desire for people of all persuasions to share and learn in an open environment. It is a fast-paced event with discussions, presentations, and interaction from all participants. (It is inspired by the BarCamp community.)

ANYONE WITH SOMETHING TO CONTRIBUTE OR WITH THE DESIRE TO LEARN IS WELCOME AND INVITED TO JOIN. When you attend, be prepared to share with others. When you leave, be prepared to share it with the world.

A KinkForAll is a special kind of gathering because there are no spectators, only participants. Attendees must give a talk or a presentation, help with one, or otherwise contribute in some way to support the event. This is called sharing and we like it. All presentations are scheduled the day they happen—there are no pre-scheduled presentations or keynote addresses. The people present at the event will select the presentations they want to see.

Anyone can lead a session, on any topic related to sexuality. You do not necessarily have to teach a new skill or idea. You might share an experience, facilitate a discussion, or read a poem. The goal is to start a conversation, make connections (and maybe even friends), and exchange knowledge. Presentations promoting specific commercial products or companies are discouraged.

Learn more about what to expect at
wiki.kinkforall.org/WhatToExpect

Learn more about the event guidelines at
wiki.kinkforall.org/TheRulesOfKinkForAll

This activity is not sponsored by, associated with, or endorsed by Montgomery County Public Schools or Montgomery County Government.

Get Involved
We need your help in spreading the word. Please help by participating.

Here’s how:
1. Get excited by reading fellow participants’ topic ideas on
wiki.kinkforall.org/KinkForAllProvidence
2. Add your name or handle to the list of participants
3. Join the mailing list and introduce yourself by emailing
kinkforall@googlegroups.com
4. Show up!

Still have questions? Read the Frequently Asked Questions at
wiki.kinkforall.org/FrequentlyAskedQuestions

or email kinkforall@googlegroups.com for more details.

KinkForAll Online
Participate online before the event at your favorite social networking web site:

Homepage: wiki.KinkForAll.org
Google: groups.google.com/group/kinkforall
Twitter: twitter.com/KinkForAll
Identica: identi.ca/kinkforall
Facebook: www.facebook.com/pages/KinkForAll
Fetlife: fetlife.com/groups/2962

All organizational efforts are coordinated in public via the mailing list. Join for free and help turn ideas into realities!

groups.google.com/group/kinkforall

Want to help me with my talk at Conversio Virium tonight (2/1/10) and KinkForAll Providence this Saturday (2/6/10)?

Do one of these exercises as a comment or email to me at mrjackstratton@gmail.com

They don’t have to be long, just enough to get the point across. I will credit you or not mention you, which ever you like. If you would like to be credited, include you name and that you’d like to be credited. I will assume anyone who doesn’t include that doesn’t want to be credited.

Thanks!

1. Articulation
Write a short essay or story to articulate a specific fantasy. Pick one thing you desire, an activity, a scene or scenario and explore where you would like to go with it in a detailed and explicit way. Picture the scene and imagine in what interesting ways it might grow. Take ideas to the next level and examine the roots of your desires and how they can more thoroughly be explored.

2. Seduction
Write a short essay or story to entice someone to do something you find arousing. Put your desired activity in the most appealing light to your reader. Think about what your reader(s) want and write about how your desires fit into their needs. Describe feelings and sensation while steering clear of specifics that your reader may be biased against or have preconceived notions about. Create intrigue and woo the reader by suggesting what you could do to make the activity even more pleasurable for them.

3. Negotiation
Write a short essay or story to arrange a scene that will satisfy all parties involved. Talk in depth about things you want to do while talking briefly but succinctly about what you don’t want to do. Elaborate on your desires and be forthcoming with things that you would be willing to compromise on as well as do in return. Ask questions that have more than yes or no answers. Asking if someone will do something will only get you a yes or no, asking under what circumstances someone might do something leaves the idea open for further negotiation.

4. Processing
Write a short essay or story to examine an activity, scene or scenario that you felt went either very well or very poorly. Write about what you liked about the scene in specific terms, as well as what you didn’t like. Explore why you felt it was success or unsuccessful and write about why you feel that way. Did something unexpected happen? What would you have changed? What would you like to explore further? How did it affect you?